I am allowing myself to be
taken out and to take people out too. I am not looking for someone just allowing myself to be open to going out more. What I am completely baffled by is we
live in the era of equality, or so they say. We live in the world of split
second decisions, and standing on your own two feet. So why do women feel that
you need to be completely clung to. Why do you need someone to hold your hand
through everything. Why can’t you do your own thing and just compliment each
other instead of feeling like you need
to match perfectly I have a new feeling that I am questioning about Why are
women are trying to be Disney princess and women from chick flicks. Why do they
think that will work?
When women are single they stand up for
themselves and don’t allow people to treat them like dirt. When women are
single they pay their bills and cook for themselves and do the dishes while
working and or going to school. Then all of the sudden women cling to this guy
that they thing will love them forever they pretend to be this little dainty
thing that can’t lift a finger to open a door or that its not ok to pay for
coffee occasionally. I can’t stand it. I love being wined and dined, I love
having the door held and being told to go first, I love turning up at a coffee
shop and having my coffee sitting on the table waiting for me. But If that
happens all the time then its annoying. It’s an understanding in all of my
relationships that If you show up first you buy coffee If I show up first I
will buy your coffee. If we walk up to a door and I am two steps ahead of you I
will not stand there and wait for you to open the door but I will hold the door
for you and expect the same from you. We are equal. We are both adults, We both
can do our own thing and are attempting to find a balance of including someone
else into your social circle. It’s ok for me to buy drinks this time when you
buy dinner tomorrow night. Women you
need to learn that the story book roll doesn’t work anymore! Don’t give into rude
men, or women. Don’t let someone tell you what you are going to do today. Stand
up for yourself and know that you can be allowed to drive occasionally or you
can plan and pay for a date. But you better understand that he needs to be
doing the same thing. It might take some getting use to for him as well it
hurts their man pride to allow a women to take care of them sometimes. But if
he shows up with coffee for you because he knows you are a wreck without it and
if he kicks you out at the end of the night instead of inviting you to stay the
night you better put in an effort and you treat him the say way that relationship
is healthy. Run with it. Don’t plan your wedding two weeks, 3 months or even 1
year in. Allow life to just come and experience it as it come. Don’t waste time
and don’t ruin it for yourself.
